Pro Se

Every individual has their own personality, their own way of portraying themselves, their own distinctiveness which makes them, makes us, makes everyone stand out and be unique. It is a common perception that ‘everyone is an individual’ but to take it into account that every person is an individual is a completely different perception.

It is by habit that we think of ourselves first, we think of our problems first and that we are our own priority, we are all a tad selfish and that is quite natural not to mention. To be a bit of selfish is relatively natural and a deeply-ingrained part of us also necessary to move forth toward success, if we stopped doing that we would be stuck in one place, if we put others’ needs before us even when we cannot afford to we would be stuck in one place. In order to keep moving forward it is essential that we become our first priority while subsequently we should think of giving back to the community by helping the needy.

Although sometimes in the long run our proclivities influence us to tread a few people in our surroundings but we, unaware of our actions, keep on moving forth which is a foolhardy act, a hasty decision or a very proud move.

Sometimes we do not get to chose who we are such as if someone has a speech impediment they did not choose it, if someone has a learning disability they did not choose it. Similarly if someone is submissive by nature they did not choose it, if someone cannot control their temper, they did not choose it. It so happens that we as individuals are born with our own superpowers and we cannot change them they are very much embedded deep within us. But to make someone’s life a living hell just because they do not fall in the category of ‘the normal cult of society’ is again a foolhardy act, an appalling act.

It is not really up to us to decide who is perfect inside out because no one really is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, there is always room for improvement in everyone’s life and no one can be complacent enough to say that they are ‘perfect’ that they do not need to learn more, that they have all the answers. Someone can have the expertise of one subject or a few subjects but not all, a person can have full know-how of a few subjects but not all.

There is a difference between getting the chance to speak up for yourself and never getting one at all. When you get a chance to speak for yourself each day is like Christmas, Eid etc. When you have to cocoon yourself thinking that others might not agree with your opinions, with your ideas, every day is like facing an earthquake.

No one has the right to frequently give shut up calls to the ‘dumb ones’, to the submissive ones because those who do so are oblivious about what egalitarianism is. Egalitarianism is a policy, a belief that suggests that every individual is equal or according to Merriam Webster: egalitarianism is a social philosophy advocating the removal of inequalities among people.

We cannot advocate the idea of removing inequalities among us if we let others speak for themselves only, if we have to say something then it is high time that we start doing so by admitting that we are not being treated fairly and rather opposite to what we deserve.

Throughout my life I have faced so many people insulting me on my face in public without thinking for a second that they could be wrong and not me. On the other hand I accepted their treatment thinking that maybe I am not capable of making the right decision. But looking back on life I regret not standing up for myself because now I know that I was quite right on my path. So now I will always represent myself for which I will tell the dominant ones to make way because I am coming through as I have a ‘dumb notion’ of my own to represent.

N.B. You have a right to represent yourself in all court cases. Representing yourself is called acting pro se. Pro Se is a Latin phrase that means “for yourself.” http://www.jud.ct.gov/faq/represent.html