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           Once there was a boy named ALI. He was a very brilliant student and had won prizes in different competitions. He excellent  in all subjects except for maths. He tried much to improve his maths but could not help himself much so, to improve his maths. He decided to take tution. His parents agreed to this.

            Everything was going perfectly well until he failed in a test which was a month earlier from the mid term examination. When Ali checked his answers, every answer was correct. He confused and asked the teacher why he didn’t  get adequate marks???? The teacher repiled that the methods he used were not taught by the teacher and that’s why he got such less marks. “So not only the answers but methods too are Important” he thought and started to re-plan his preparation schedule for final exams.      

Autobiography (why I won't use a Tommy gun)

The most creepy part of my life is when I stick up for a decision, when I think of something that defines me, that makes me stronger and when I stand up for it I find out that no one believes me, I find out that people around me not necessarily believe in what I believe is right and just; that part of my life is frightening.

Despite of how creepy it sounds it happens almost all the time and with everyone hence it is normal or perhaps a ritual that everyone feels and goes through. Although it is scary to decide something that can change the direction of your life from one track to another especially when you have no clue whether that particular, new track would bring happiness or not; you still go right ahead and do it.

In life there always comes a time when you decide something but no one votes for it and when you remain stern and strong, “pop!” and you grow up. That is when you notice a gray hair (although you had it since high school) and think of yourself as a 40 year old person even though you are 23.

I have a history of doubting my decisions because of the difference of opinions, mine and everyone else’s. As a result I never find courage to fight for something that I plan to dedicate me life for, and afterwards I give up and follow the sheep. Even though I know that I am the rightful owner, that I waited and perhaps went through a lot to finally feel that now I have the rein in my hand, I can turn where ever I want to, go fast or slow, I still doubt myself.  

Life is not a long saga; it is more like a short documentary considering the amount of people I see dying every second. Life is scary, it makes you jittery. Life is more frightening when you stand alone for your rights and especially when even those who know that they can give you something that is rightfully yours; they just decide to not do it after all.

On the contrary, you have to turn over a new leaf every now and then. You have to tell everyone, those who do not believe your decisions and those who are not giving you what is yours rightfully, that it does not matter what they think, that this is not the full stop, that for once you have decided something unconventional, that they must like you and your decision because they need to know that you want nothing more than that particular theory to be converted into practice.

Of course if I was like Hitler I would not have to worry about the 442 words that I wrote up there, I could just use a Kalashnikov or something, may be a Tommy gun, anything to get what I want. Then again that would not be me; I would rather want people to vote for me, without the depressive music playing in the back drop (no thank you).

I now know though, that I have the rein in my hand, I now know that I would not end up doubting myself. Now I know that even though not a single human being on earth is with me, I am with myself. Now I know that my decision to do something unconventional will inundate everyone’s opposition and not my doubting-myself-giving-up kind of an attitude. If I know how to put the solution of my problem in words, I will do whatever it takes to act according to the theory. This I promise to myself and to everyone.

Fairy Tales 

    

Fairy tales have come down from old times, when people really believed in the powers of fairies, elves and other supernatural beings, goods and bad.

The story of Cinderella, blue beard and his wives and the sleeping beauty, these are some of stories that are not very old, but are found with slight differences in many different language. Besides these old tales, many beautiful fairy stories have been written in modern times like “Peter Pan” and “The Water Babies” are read with delight, not only by children but also by grown-up people.

Of course no one now believes in fairies except young children. But yet even authors of genius still write fairy tales and people still read them with pleasure. Children still love fairy stories and their mothers still think it is a good thing to tell them. Now a days there is a facility that we can watch movies of these fairy tales. But still we want to read fairy tales because they take us for a little time, out of our dull everyday life. Fairy tales are good to read, because they express and keep alive the sense of wonder which is very valuable thing for adults as well as children. When we cease to wonder, we cease to learn.

UTHO BETA AANKHAIN KHOLO BISTER CHORO AUR MUN DHOLO

What to do? What to do? This load shedding must end. These decided hours by KESC is making everyone sick. Whenever you are thinking of sleeping peacefully on a weekend saying “ aaj to aaram se soyeinge”, KESC will push you up and will say “utho beta aankhain kholo bister choro aur mun dholo”. KESC will ruin your plans and if you are very much happy, planning to watch a favorite show at 8pm, so please don’t think about it. This will spoil your mood. Every year it is decided that load shedding will end, and when the next year came all the dreams will be shattered.

 

Nowadays situation is totally reversed. Whenever the lights are on continuously and load shedding doesn’t happen the first reaction will be OH MY ALLAH why the light is still coming? When load shedding will happen? Fingers crossed. And if there is heavy load of work from university, if you have to complete a project or an assignment by the required time, its impossible thanks to KESC. Every year we should have to pay huge amount of bills. Why there is no relaxation for public? When KESC will have mercy on us?    

WHERE THERE’S A WILL THERE’S A WAY

 

It is a true saying “where there’s a will there’s a way”. Sometimes we find a lot of difficulties and hurdles, when we are determined to do something, we find it apparently impossible but sooner or later we find a way of doing it. It is only depending on our will that how we do it. So where there’s a will, a way will be found.

It is lack of will that accounts for failure in ninety nine cases out of hundred. First we say we want to do a certain thing, in the first step we are very much confident, we push our mind and heart we really can do it, in reality we do not, at any rate of doing it means effort or sacrifice will be required. So if we do not want to make any attempt, we comfort ourselves by finding excuses. We exaggerate every difficulty and so fill our minds with the obstacles in the way. We always think that it is impossible.

We think our will is weak; it is like a thin feeble stream of water which is turned aside or blocked by every small obstacle in its path. The “will” in the sentence is a strong determination. It will exempt the word “NO” from our lives when we really understand the meaning of “will”. A fierce desire, a strong determination, that will make light of difficulties, this is the sort of will that finds the way to achievement.

Many successful men who become famous as scholar, artist, writer, inventor, businessman had to struggle against unconquerable obstacles to win success. It was their fearless will to succeed that in the end found the way to success. In last I would like to add a word said by Napoleon “impossible” was not found in his dictionary.

1 Sino vote for Pak

As we, me and my sister, were going to her vocational school at Memon center to drop her off, I saw a Chinese man walking toward some direction. Although I was completely oblivious of the fact as to where he was walking to but the glimpse of his face that I caught was astonishing. The way he walked, with the strap of his bag spread across his chest, they way he was confident walking in a country which has a reputation not to mention he was walking among the crowd and he did not seem to try too hard to completely blend in, he did not seem to care about his features, his color, he just kept walking, confidently.

I wondered what he was doing here in Pakistan, what does a man who belongs to a country which has the balance of power of the World want from Pakistan? The answer though is simpler than I expected, he just came here to work or train. The second thought that came in my mind was the introduction of Chinese language in our middle schools and once again I wondered what if after ten to fifteen years the mob, in which that Chinese subject was so obvious, spoke Chinese then may be Pakistan would witness more than a single Chinese subject in a day, for all we know, may be this mob would have a parallel amount of Chinese and Pakistanis.

I have read so much about how communism failed in Eastern Europe or in Russia and it became a republic in the 20th century, I have read so many times that the socialist system failed because it brought the economy down in Russia. But china, according to my research, adopted a few capitalist policies which have benefited them and privatization has happened in china as well. According to the web, China took the communism and socialist system to the next level only because of the rise of entrepreneurs in the country. May be, that Chinese in Memon center was an entrepreneur willing to start his business with some Pakistani private company.

What took china to the status quo of a self-made world power is its hard working people, workaholics, literate entrepreneurs and experience. Still a few policies are weak but the subjects have made their country a strong, counterpart of the USA in the world while the world relies on china for the success of international economy.

I have not forgotten to mention that these countries were war struck once while the Pakistani land, as fertile as it is, have not faced so many wars except a few over border issues and independence. These great powers have started from scratch; there is not much of a difference between the policies of the developed democracies of the world and ours, the developing newly born democracy. What is surprising is Pakistan is rich with the raw material which makes me think that we do not even need to start from scratch; we already have what it takes to be a democracy which can stand on its feet. I know how the provincial disagreement is there in our country which is quite depressing as we need the lands which are rich with raw material.

Methinks that there is a bright future ahead if we stop feeling sorry for ourselves, if we start appreciating our talent in our country and not let them leave to find better jobs in the developed states. Methinks we need to value each other just like how the Indians, the Chinese, the Americans live peacefully and sociably within their land, to them it does not matter if someone comes from the southern part or the northern, what matters to them is the amount of the work being done and the preparation for a tomorrow. May be if we allow a bit of optimism among ourselves, if we stop shedding our own blood over a political party clash which is absurd not to mention, then maybe it would benefit us.  What we do not need is to start from scratch economically because we have the required bounty of nature but we need to start from scratch as regard accepting each other as countrymen, we need to start from scratch when it comes to accepting someone’s hard work. This is what can take us to a next level or a better future for our younger, newer generation. This opinion of mine was shaped thanks to that Chinese fellow in my land of pure, thanks to his vote for my country for choosing it for his business.

Aurat ko uska maqam kon dilaye ga??

 

Pichlay dino meri ankhoun k samnay se aik aesi khabar guzri jis nay mujhe ye sochnay pe majbor krdia k “KIA HA IS MASHRAY MEIN AIK AURAT KA MAQAM?” Woh khabar kuch ye thi k Baloch Colony ki rihaisha Sana k sath 3 larkoun ne mil kar ijtimai ziadti kari. Jis k natijay mein Sana  ne mashray mein apna woh maqam jo har aurat ka haq hota hai, kho chuki hai. Ub Sana jb tak zinda rhay gi aik be maqsad zindagi guzaray gi.Kion k humara mashra aj bhi aesi auart ko aik baizzat zindagi guzarnay ka koi haq nahi deta chahay woh aurat mazlooom hi kion na ho. Yahan per ye sawal paida hota hai k Kia qasor tha Sana ka ya mashray mein basi har us aurat ka jo zaidti jasay aziat naak amal ka shikar hoti hai?  Ya phir un aurtoun or larkioun ka jo bus stop per khari apni matlooba bus ka intizar krnay k sath sath mardoun ki isharay bazi or wahiat fikray bazi ka bhi samna kar rahi hoti hain, bebasi or majbori k alam mein. Kion k who janti hain k humaray is mardoun se bharay mashray mein uski awaz koi nahi sunay ga balkay uski awaz ko daba dia jaye ga ya usi ko morad e ilzam thehraya jaye ga. Ye waqiyat na tu farzi hain na hi jhot per mabni hain. Balkay in waqiyaat ne humari haqiqi zindagi se janam lia hai or her aurat ko sochnay per majbor kia hai k Kia hai is mashray mein humara maqam or hesiat? Sirf itni hi hesiat hai aurat ki mard k hathoun istimal hoti rahain ya mard ki buri nigahoun ka nishana banti rahain ya phir un k ghatiya jumloun ka samna karti rahain? In sab batou pe ghor karain tu humay ye andaza hota hai k humaray Allah or Rasool ne tu aurat ko uska maqam dia hai likin humaray mashray or mulk ne islami talimat se door ho kar aurat se uska who asal maqam cheen liya. Or is zalim dunia mein jeenay k liye ya izzat k sath rehne k liye mard k sath ka mohtaaj bana dia. Aurtoun k haq k liye larnay walay tu bht hain likin un ko unka asal maqam dilanay wala koi nahi.Is mulk or mashray mein har woh aurat tanha hai jis k sath mard ka sath nahi.Aj k is zamany mein jb insane jaan ki koi ahmiat nahi rahi wahin aurat ko bhi is cheez ka yaqeen nahi raha ka woh agar ghar se bahar niklay gi tu kia woh ba izzat ya baghair torcher hoye apnay ghar wapis asakay gi?

Oper bayan kiye gaye waqiyat or batain woh hain jin k hum adi ho chukay hain kion k ye batain kahin na kahin humari roz marra zindagi ka hissa ban chuki hain.Yani k agar tv per kisi aurat k sath hoi ziadati ya badtamezi ki khabar ati hai tu hum usay suntay hain dekhaty hain us pe tabsara krtay  hain or bhool jatay hain.Likin mera sochna ye hai k har azziat ka shikar sirf aurat hi kion hoti hai? Kia ALLAH tabarak o talah ne is liye hawa ki beti ko paida kia tha k unhay har mumkin tariqay se aziat pohunchai jaye, istimal kia jaye, nuqsan pohunchaya jaye or unhay is cheez ka ahsas dilaya jaye k ye hai tumhara maqam is mashray mein.

Aap, Mein or is blog ko parhnay wali har aurat kabhi na kabhi kahin na kahin aese aziat nak lamhoun ka shikar zaror hoi ho gi ya ho rahi hai.

Akhir mein mera sawal ye hai k, “Aurat ko is ka maqam kon dilaye ga? Koi dilaye gab hi ya nahi?      

YE ZAMEEN SADAIN DAITI HAI

kabhi gour se sunna ye zameen sadain daiti hai.hum se kai sawal pochti hai.ye zameen pochti hai k ;

aa maire logo kahan gai maire liye tmhari wo mohabat  jo k jab mai tmhare pas nahi thi to tm mjse  karte the. aj jab k main tmhare pas hon .to kahan chali gai wo mohbt ?

ye zameen hum se pochti hai k;

koi apno se bhala aisi be rukhi barat ta hai kiya? aaj mai tarasti hon apne us parcham ko daikhne k liye jiske saaye talay mutahid ho kar  tmne mje hasil kiya tha .main jahan nazar uthaon mje rang birangi parcham(mukhtalif siyasi jamato k jhanday) dikhai daite hain.

lekain daikho k main to ajj bhi tmhari itni kotahiyo k bawajood tmhe mohabat daiti hon.tmhare itne zulm k bawajood mai phat nahi jati.tmhe anaj daina chor nahi daiti.tmse apni pahchan cheen nahi laiti.or aik tm ho jo mj apni ko izzat daine k bajai gairo k naam ki maala japte ho unhe izzat daite ho.tm mano ya na mano tmhari pahchaan to marte dam tak sirf mj se hi rahegi.

zara socho k jab tmhari itni be rukhi k bawajood mai tmhe itna kuch daiti hon to tmhari mohabbat pa kar main tmhe kiya kiya nawaz dongi.balke main to isi intezar mai ghulay ja rai hon k kab tmhari ankhain khulain ,kab apne paraye ka faraq samjo or kab mjhe dil se apna tasleem karo to main apni dolat tm par nichawar kar sakon. 

tm mje apnayat de kar to daikho, mairi mohabat ko apne dil mai basa kar to daikho phir hi to jaan paoge k ye zameen badle main tmhe kiya kiya de sakti hai.tmhari sari pareshaniyo ka hal muj se mohabbat mai chupa hai.

par maire logo......................... main gamzada zaroor hon lekin ab bhi maira bharosa tm par qaeem hai .aik umeed ki kiran aj bhi mje dikhai daiti hai.k maire apne boht jald neend se bedaar ho jainge.mje wo sab dainge jis par maira haq hai or muj se wo sab lainge jo unka haq hai.

maire logo mairi aik iltija hai tmse! maira ye bharosa tootne mat daina,ye umeed ki kiran bujhne mat daina!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The hourglass of time

History of Islamic women warriors is an eye opener which revealed to me the multiple roles women played in the Muhammad S.A.W. era and how Muhammad S.A.W. was kind to them. The more I read about women rights in Islam the more I came to know about Muhammad S.A.W. humanity, his thoughtfulness toward the Muslim women and his open-mindedness.

When Ume-Ammarah (Nusaybah bint Kaab ) fought in the battle of Uhud with great courage Muhammad S.A.W. praised her for her courage, Ume Ammarah was injured in the battle and when came to consciousness asked about Muhammad S.A.W. which reveals the amount of respect between the two, for Muhammad Ume-Ammarah was a human being and a brave women who fought alongside him in the battle field.

One day when I was using Face book I saw a women with a gun in her hand while she wore traditional shalwar, kameez and duppatta spread all over her head and shoulders but what bewildered me was the amount of swearing and cussing that was written under her picture by all the men, they wrote about her character and how she failed to be a good Muslim, they wrote how she ruined Islam’s name in front of the world etc. over all she was the evil that somehow was the filth that needed to cleansed, she was immoral and it seemed that if she came out of the picture she would be stoned to death, the ultimate way of cleansing a perfect society of Islam: execute women that do not play the role which is a norm, a standard , that do not possess the custom characteristics necessary for the attainment of a perfect Islamic society. Although I still cannot understand how cursing a girl’s picture can lead to a perfect Islamic society, I cannot understand how executing of the gender which is responsible for birth of Muslims can lead to the creation of Islamic society. Although I question about when the true way of Islam will be used to rid of all the wrongs of society: teaching (as portrayed by Muhammad when he discussed problems without the means of arms).

During my research for the hadith of Allah’s Prophet, I came across websites that offended (Nauzubillah) the Hadith by misrepresenting its meanings completely in order to lead the readers astray but my heart stopped beating after reading them as Muhammad is a true role model and a freedom fighter for the Muslim women.  It is a shame what the masses will find when they would want to know about Islam and those who fought for it; all they will find is propaganda and falsification.

Coming from a middle class family my sisters and I did not have any choice but to get out and work for food, clothes and shelter. Throughout my life I believed what people said about the character of such women who work but little did I know that I was the one who was ignorant because I did not care about what “Islam” and its “Prophet” had to say. This is what research of true Islamic scholars reveal:

“There is no restriction in Islamic law that says a woman cannot work or have a profession, that her only place is in the home. In fact, by definition, in a truly Islamic society, there must be women physicians, women nurses and women teachers.” – rasoulallah.net

In one of his last commands in his farewell pilgrimage before his death, Muhammad kept repeating, "I command you to be kind and considerate to women." In another hadith, he said, "It is only the generous in character who is good to women, and only the evil one who insults them."

It was not me and my sisters who were on the wrong path, we went out for our needs without treading on anyone’s rights, without insulting anyone’s faith or dignity, but what we never got is equal treatment in return and understanding for the ordeals we faced everyday and how we fought alone. This scenario is not only restricted to my family, I mention it only for reference. It belongs to every woman who struggles and faces ridicule when going out to work but has no choice to sit at home and not work because she has to go out for income, for food and for a shelter.

I think about how hard it was to survive in an Islamic Republic and still will be in the future, I think about the rights that Muhammad secured for women which are abundant and how I will never obtain them or how girls like me will never get when they will go out to work or live a married life, they will always face chauvinism and domestic manipulation by husbands, husbands’ brothers, sisters and mother. I wonder when we muslims will start acting as true muslims and follow the true Islam, follow the prophets and their male and female followers who all fought for us and shed blood for us.

I wonder when we will learn that Islam came as a Revolution for both men and women, when Muhammad secured the rights of husbands and daughters Both and not just husbands’.  I wonder if I will ever obtain my rights before meeting my maker or be a mark of ridicule for speaking up for myself domestically or professionally.

At times it seems as if the hour glass of time has been flipped, that history is repeating itself only, we have no apostle or a supporter to follow, to listen to, we are on our own to try to understand the truth and reality, to try to see the thin line between good and bad and not cross it. What is inconvenient is the weaker ones getting left behind; the ones with no voice that get left behind. The world is moving ahead toward advancements and a matter such as that of Human Rights is a petty issue but we are still unable to secure the rights of the weaker gender.

 What we need is to not complicate the matters but to keep moving forward, to interact and let others speak up as well as. What we need is to understand the real Islam and how it revolted against the negativity that was spoiling the Arab civilization. If we start thinking that we are all the disciples of Muhammad that we are all his Umat, that we are the ones to remember and understand his teachings and forget about how racially and ethnically divided we are then that would be the first step toward solving the problem. We do not need a utopian concept to solve our problems; we need to understand the law and the science that has already been sent by Allah via his Prophet  S.A.W.

  

                BUS RE BUS

Daftar jatay houay bus, daftar se attay houay bus, school jana hai tu bus wapis ana hai tu bus, university jana hai tu bus university se ana hai tu bus, sair ki jana hai tu bus gharz ye k youn mehsooh hota hai k :

                              HAR SUBAH BUS HAR SHAAM BUS

                                  JEEWAN KA HAI ANJAM BUS

Karachi mai youn tu tarah tarah ki busay pai jati hain. Cheekti hoi busay, dandanati hoi busay, dorti hoi busay laykin ziyada tar ehamiat ki hamil hai adam khoor busay (jo insan ki jaan lay lay ti hai).

Adam khoor busay asi busay hoti hai jin k tayro(wheel) ko insani khoon ka maza aur chaska par gaya ho. In busay mai safar karnay walay Adam ki aulad ko is tarah kuchla jata hai k bohat se bachay yateem ho jatay hai, bohat se suhag lut jatay hai, behano k bhai chalay jatay hai. Asi adam khoor buso ki raftar mai kami mumkin nahi wo is liya q k in buso ko chala ne walay driver hazrat apni zimadario ko bhool bethay hai wo zaroorat se ziyada logo ko busoy mai chara kar asi driving kartay hai jis se insani janoo ko khatray mai daal daytay hain. In hay chaiya k wo seat k ihisab se musafiron ko bus mai charhain aur ahaista ahaista bus chalayn aur khas kar k qanoon k usoolon ko pasdari karayn asa karnay aur in sub per amal karnay se koi hadsa ronuma honay se bach sakta hai.

Qabal is k bus bus kartay houay hamari bus ho jay q k zindagi tu fani hai, na janay kon si bus k sath bus ho jaye ya kon si bus talay aa kar bus ho jaye. Behatar yeahi hai k hum bhi bus kardayen busay tu chalti rahayn gi, Safar karnay walay safar kartay rehayn gay aur yeh qissa bus honay mai nahi ayyga aur liaygia! Hamari bus bhi aa gai……….

EHSAAS.......

Zindagi k Roz-o-shab sub he guzartay hain kuch hans kar, to kuch ro kar, kuch khel kar aur kuch is na samjhi-o-nadani mai k wo zindagi ko guzaar rahay hain . Lekin dar haqeekat zindagi in ko guzar rahi hoti hai.

Kisi ko sub kuch mil jata hai aur kuch tou ek cheez hasil karnay k liye duniya chor detay hain magar zindagi ki haqeekat pouchini ho tou is se poocho jis ko zindagi ne wo khusiyaan wo sub kuch nahin diya jin ki in ko zaroorat thi aur zaroorat hai. Lekin wo phir bhi zinda  hain aur koshan hain zindagi mai khusiyun ki talaash k liye. Hamaray mashray k aisay bohat se kirdar hain lekin zindagi ki tez raftari mai hum sub ko nazar andaaz kartay hain kabhi kisi ne is “Bachay” k kirdar ko dekha hai jo hamaraymashray ka hissa ho kar bhi hamari nazro se oojhal hai, is bachay ki umar khelnay kudnay ki hai,zindagi k mazay layna ki hai,parhanay ki hai,nai(new) chezoo ki farmaish karnay ki hai,nakhray kar nay ki hai,rath ko sotay waqat khaniyaan sunay ki hai… lekin ye wo bacha hai jo apnai kam umari se hi mehanat mazdoori karta hai. Ye bacha subha ko akhbar beachta hai hotel mai maiz(table) saf karta hai, logo k jootay aur bartano ko ikhata karta hai,Magar is bachay ki bhook, is ki bebasi,bechani kisi ko nazar nahi ati na he is ki zindagi mai mouj masti hai na doston k sath, na kisi cheez ki farmaish hai, isay sirf fikar hai te apne pait k. apne pait ki aag bujhane ki is ki zindagi sirf ustad ji ustad ji se shury hoti aur isi per khatam jo jati hai.

Kya kabhi kisi ne soch hai k ye bachay ne khana khay hai? Kiay is ko kuch chaiya tu nahi? Kiya yeh bemar tu nahi koi is bachay ki taraf deakhy tu shayad wo bhi is ki zindagi asan karday magar kon karay ga? agar koi is bachay ki mada karnay k liya sochay ga bhi tu dusray lamhay apnay bacahy ki farmaisho ko pehlay tarjhee dayga.

Ye kaisi insaniyat hai agar ek naki app ki apni apni zindagi badal day tu zindagi ka asal maqsadpura ho jay ga, ye bat sirf aur sirf EHSAAS ki hai agar hum apni khusiyon ko in kirdaro k naam karday jin ki zindagi jhalat aur gurbat k andharo mai sisak sisak kar mout ki taraf barh rai hai tw in kirdaron ki nai zindagi mil jae gi aur is bachay WAHAB  ko bhi ek nai zindagi mil jae gi…..     

Share me!

When I take responsibility of a task I work hard for it to achieve successful results. If you talk about tasks (generalization) it is a give and take process for example, when I was a cabin crew I had many responsibilities such as the ‘security check’ of the passenger cabin (first one that popped in my mind). This task is assigned to each cabin crew member and they comply by company’s instruction by checking the cabin carefully. When the company sees every individual’s performance they are appreciated as well. So any task could involve a give and take process and in this case the task was the security check of the cabin (give) while appreciation was the ‘take’.

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It is a rewarding process because when you are appreciated back, nothing beats it. Sometimes though that is not always the case, sometimes you might feel misevaluated or underestimated. In my opinion, underestimation is a virus for a person because it makes one ill. It is a negative sort of a feeling; it completely disrupts the biological setup of one’s body. A person feels as if they lack the required energy, they cannot think up to the standard of others, they feel as if something’s missing.

When opportunity knocks at someone’s door it is for sure that they were doing something right, that they were on the right path and opportunity knocks winners. But if someone’s completely overwhelmed due to being misevaluated they would not notice it. It is famous that opportunity only knocks once and one is supposed to open the door when it does.

So whose fault is it? Can we go ahead and blame the person who is rotting with their own pessimism or should we blame the authority figures who clearly should have appreciated that person in the first place. Who is to be held accountable?

When you struggle to achieve something you work your fingers to the bone for it and of course a person works hard when they are assigned something by someone who is the authority but if that authority figure cannot even appreciate let alone give something back to that person, in that case, all the hard work and efforts that the person was making go down the drain.

A task is successful when it is shared by both; the one who assigns it and the one who does it. It will be incomplete if one of them cannot fulfill their responsibility.

I guess success has many forms and not just one; a person can be successful in many ways and not just career wise, even relationships have a give and take process and can be successful when the people involved agree to stay calm and positive. For example if a mother tells her son to go out and buy groceries she expects him to do that but if he is too lazy and procrastinates then he will only upset his mother because there was no give and take, he only took favors from her but never returned them. If a wife tells her husband to simply pay attention to her because she completely has changed her focus on life and future just to keep her husband happy but if he teases her purposefully then that relationship will be a total failure too. If a boss assigns a task to his junior office member but this guy is lazy then he will never get the raise his boss had in mind for him.

This two-way process 1) Give and 2) Take can bring success no matter what the relationship is whether professional, domestic or school-oriented. If it is only give and give a relationship will fail similarly if it is only take and take, no success will come either.

Someone’s success comes when there is a mutual share of work load or emotions if we talk about relationships but, of course, the examples can be abundant in this case since ‘success’ can have not one but a few more ‘meanings’ to it and that in my opinion.

Hence when a responsibility is taken by a person who is a junior, an assistant and he takes this responsibility because he has agreed to, anyhow, this person works his half while the other half would be the appreciation or regard which should come from the manager or the supervisor. In this manner the give and take process is somewhat victorious because both of them have the understanding that no matter which person is responsible for a task, that responsibility will always be divided into two parts: give and take. Similarly the benefit that the manager will have by the completion of that task will also benefit the assistant which concludes to this: if responsibility is shared, so is the success thus no losers left, it will be a win-win situation.

THINK ABOUT THEM BECAUSE THINKING IS NOT A SIN

Dressed in women’s outfit, a nose-pin on one nostril and with a delicate fading orange henna pattern on her hands, pink nail polish and colorful glass bracelets around her wrist. Standing on the signal, waiting for a car to come and ready to say “Bajji ALLAH TUMHE KHUSHIYAN DIKHAYE TUMHE MAKKAH MADINEY JAANE KI SAADAT NASEEB HOO”. They won’t have any problem that you only give them 1 rupee or 2 rupee they will take it happily. I know everyone knows about them I am talking about those people who face harsh realities of life day by day yet they don’t complain about anything but it doesn’t mean we forget about them before treating them badly. Talking about the most important people I want to say that transgender are just different, not abnormal. Transgender are normal human beings just like us, they should be treated just like any other men or women in our daily life we need to accept transgender for who they are.

There are communities of Tran’s genders in Pakistan who are living together dancing, singing and begging on the mean streets of Karachi. What do you think without education can you find a suitable job for yourself. Leave alone empathy or acceptance, most of them are denied education, jobs, houses to rent and other tools of empowerment. That is why there is so much of begging among them.

Most transgender are thrown out of their families, because their parents are unable to accept the transition. Among them whom are lucky find their ways how to live the tougher part of life. Others run away because they cannot bear violence, abuse and ridicule they are subjected to. I found some few lines written by a person about how he turns his gender saying “I was the eldest among my siblings and started working at an early age as a transgender since my father was not interested in supporting the family. He had a bad temper and used to beat my mother and the children at home”. So these are some of the pressures that these people had faced in early lives that change their minds their perceptions. If you treat them badly they curse you that is a threat but if you treat them in a good manner if you think that they are normal people they give you blessings towards happy and successful life. 

                             

So think about it why they can’t get that place in our society that level that is equal for everyone why they are abused on signals just because they have their own identity. But we don’t accept them as members of our society cause of our weird perceptions. Transgender are those people who come from our society they follow the same religion. While this may be difficult to comprehend in deeply religious cultures like ours, Transgenders were created the way they are by the Creator Himself. We simply do not have the right to treat them in any derogatory manner because of how they are positioned. .... Think about them because thinking is not a sin.

please read it friends

aaj blog likhne baithi to pahle to samaj nai aaya ka kis topic ka intekhab kiya jaye.phir zehan mai achanak university mai hone wale spring festival or waha hone wali kuch mazahya harkato ka khayal aaya.to socha aaj us hi k baray mai aj aap logo se kuch batain ki jain.

                       jo log us festival mai mojood the shayad samaj hi gaye ho k mai kin mazahya harkato ka zikar kar rai hon.............ji ji wohi........ larkiyo ka un do acters ko daikh kar aapay se bahar ho jana(maaf kijiyega mje un k naam nahi maloom jabi sirf actors kah kar mukhatib kar rahi hon)

                        thora sa apni yadasht  ko rewind kijiye k pahle actor k hall mai dakhil hote hi  kaise haye haye hoi hoi ki awazain buland hone lagi thi (mje to kuch seconds k liye yu mahsoos howa mano larkiyo ko actors na koi chohay nazar aa gai ho or unki cheekhain nikal gai ho)................. chalain iske bad kiya howa thora aagay barhte hain ab jo pahle actor sahib aaye the wo baray naaz se aagay aagay larkiya pichay pichay, wo aagay aagay larkiya pichay pichay(gumaan ho raha tha jaise wo actor sahib koi maqnatees hain or larkiya .........5 ropay k sikkay, please dont mind friends)

                       hum(mai or mairi friend)aik side mai kharay ye sab daikh kar mahzooz hi ho rahe the k iske baad hone wale scene ne to hamari hansi par control karna mushkil kar diya...........howa ye k dosre actor sahib (jinhe larkiya bhola kah rai thi)haal mai dakhil howe to larkiya bichre pahle actor ko chor char(bichara is liye kaha k jin larkiyo ko khud par nichawar hota daikh wo jis tarha pholay nai sama rahe the ,unhi larkiyo ki aisi tota chasmi par unke dil ki kiya halat hoi hogi)bhola ki taraf aise lapki jaise kahi free biryani bat ta daikh public lapakti hai. cheekho ki awazo se jo pahle se kahi ziyada buland thi pora hall gonj utha.main ne socha k ye bhola jo hall mai dakhil ho hi rahe hain ,larkiyo ki itni bari fouj ko apni taraf lapakta daikh kar kahi ulte paon bhag kar apni gari mai hi na baith jaye.bahar haal jaise teesay bhola sahib andar tashreef le hi aaye par hum mai ab or hansne ki himmat na thi is liye hum haal se bahir aa gaye.agay ka ahwaal hamai nahi maloom par jitna kuch daikha us se hum kafi lutf andooz howe.

                   ab akhir mai kuch serious baat jo is blog ka message bhi hai k "dear freinds kiya apko nahi lagta k  is tarha se kisi actor k liye walihana pan ka muzahira  jo hamai janta tak nahi ,apni shaksiyat ko pamaal karna hai,apni infiradiyat ko maskh karna hai.pasandeedgi apni jaga par us pasandeedgi mai khud ko de grade karna kahan ki aqalmandi hai

Apropos of Maya Khan scandal

Being an individual I would never let a scripted show control my life. It has been almost two years since I have watched TV but before it was not different. There have been many reality TV shows airing on the television such as the Fear Factor in which they showed people swallowing bugs and octopuses; I would never implement it.

What Maya Khan show showed, I am not sure If it had a point when the show showed people getting caught dating in parks in order to stop women harassment (apropos of the video Front Line with Kamran shahid), I was not sure if that will solve the problem, if that will somehow end women harassment everywhere.

If on one hand the maya khan show wanted ratings, on the other front line also has ratings, a demographic and a specific but huge amount of people that watch the show. TV shows are scripted and have a particular TG.

Whatsoever is the case or debate, no matter how wrong I am I would never let a scripted TV show hire actors to show a huge audience, national or international, about how wrong I am. For my part, if I would want a part of my life to be made public it would be intentional and unscripted otherwise I also have rights to live as a free individual and belong to a country. - Urooba Azhar

Isay kahte hain over confident hone ka nateeja.maya khan k baray mai tamam maamlaat daikhne or sunne k bad mai to yehi samaj saki hn k maya khan over confident ho gai thi. Is mai koi shak nai k maya khan ko awam boht pasand karne lagi thi or maya khan is pasandeedgi se bakhobi waqif thi.or isi liye shayd wo is khush fahmi ka shikar ho gai k logo ne inhe apni zatiyaat mai dakhal andai karne ka certificate jaari kar diya hai.bas isi soch ne inhe over confident bana diya. kuch b karain awam inhe pasand karaigi hi.lekin badqismati se ho gaya kich ulta hi.nazreen ko unki zatiyaat mai dakhal andazi is qadar khatki k jitni mohabat se maya khan ko apne sar par bithaya tha utni hi nafrat se unhe sar se gira b diya. Is tarha k unhe sambhalne ka moqa bhi nai mil paya.chalo khair jo b howa so howa but maya khan hamare liye to aik acha message dai hi gai wo ye k"MEDIA WALO KABHI KHUSH FAHMI KA SHIKAAR NA HONA, KABI LOGO KI DI GAI MOHABAT MAI BAH KAR RULES OR REGULATIONS KO NAZAR ANDAZ MAT KARNA.KIUN K....................YE POBLIC HAI BHI PUBLIC" - Maha Qutub

How my thinking change from negative to positive. I was the one who was negative about her that what MAYA KHAN did was wrong?  I was the one with those people who were abusing her for performing this kind of show that gives the idea of highlighting unethical activities that are taking place in our parks. I cannot ask those people out there that why they are so much aggressive about her while performing this show. Just because she had shown the reality that what happens in our parks?. When I saw these things with my eyes I accepted her point of view why she conducted this programme because this is happening in the Islamic Republic of Pakistan. There were complaints coming from concerned parents about such immoral activities that’s why she did this program. I know nobody gives her the right to poke her nose in some one’s personal matter  apart from that according to me she did a good job. Hum hi kahte hain ke muashre main aas pass gandgi dekho to usey saaf karne ki koshish karo to hum q nahi khud ko badalte. Hum kisi ko mauqa q dete hain ke who aake kuch bhi karjaye?  We should try to accept our mistakes. Yes I will disagree that she misleads the camera by conducting scripted program. But at the other side she was trying to aware people by conducting this kind a program. - Madiha Samdani

Mai is bat sy sehmat hoon k Maya Khan ne jis cheez ko highlight kiya wo aaj kal hamaray mashray mai bhot aam ho chuki hai or naujawan nasal jis berah rawi ka shikar ho rai hai usko highlight karnay ki koshish ki thi . Jis ko awam nay dhka aur phir is par nukta chini or critisices karna shuru kar diya halakankay yeh awam k zor par kiya gaya program tha. Kiu k aj kal mahoul is qadar khrab ho gaya hy k hm apni families k sath park mai ghoom phir nai saktay hain.

Lekin Maya Khan ne bohat bari ghalti yeh kardi k is ne program ki foran wazahat nahin ki k yeh character paid par mabani program hai agar wo yeh wazahat kar deti tou shayad itna hangama nahin hota aur na itni rusuai ki jati. - Iraj Muzaffar

ZINDA DILI YA ...................BE HISI?

Aj t.v par phir main ne wohi jumla suna."hum itni mushkilat k bawajood aik zinda dil qoum hain"

mje samaj nahi ata k bum dhamako mai marne walo ko bhol jana,target kiling mai marne walo k ghar walo ki aaho pukar ko bhol jana,gareeb bacho k bagair chapal k pairo se riste howe khoon ko daikhkar bhool jana,sakht sardi mai in bacho k badan par aik halke kapre ko daikh kar bhol jana,inhe taleem hasil karne ki umar mai mazdori karta daikh kar bhool jana,aurto par hone wale tasadud ko bhol jana,phool jaisi bachyo ko ziyadti ka nishana bana kar in k tukray kar daine ko bhool jana,bhhok mitane k liye kachre mai giza talash kartebacho ko bhool jana,in sab bato ko bhool kar apni zindagi main magan ho jane ko zinda dili kahainge ya be hisi .please ap hi jawab dain maire is sawal ka. k agar hum in sab bato ko faromosh kar daine ko zinda dili ka naam daite rahe to kon in sab masaeel ka hal taalaash karega.kiya kisi bhi sanihay k liye kuch din ki muzahimat,baat cheet ya behas kafi kafi hai .
                       Upar to mai ne sirf atay mai namak k brabar masaeel ka zikar kiya hai.agar kuch waqt nikaal kar  hum un tamam masaeel ka jaiza lain jin se hum do chaar hain to samaj jainge k kis tarha hamari be hisi ko zinda dii k nam par thapki de de kar sulaya ja raha hai is dar se k kahi hum jaag gaye to zalimo se zulm karne ki azadi na chin jaye.
                      App hi bataye k agar khuda na khuwasta hamare ghar mai koi mushkil aan paray , to jab tak is mushkil ka hal nahi nikal ata ghar ka har fard pareshani mai hi mubtila rahta hai or agar in halaat mai ghar ka koi fard ghar walo ki pareshani ko bhool jai ,unki takleefo ko nazar andaz kar k apni zindagi magan ho jai or khuushya b manaye to hum usay kiya kahainge,ZINDA DIL YA PHIR BE HIS?