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When I take responsibility of a task I work hard for it to achieve successful results. If you talk about tasks (generalization) it is a give and take process for example, when I was a cabin crew I had many responsibilities such as the ‘security check’ of the passenger cabin (first one that popped in my mind). This task is assigned to each cabin crew member and they comply by company’s instruction by checking the cabin carefully. When the company sees every individual’s performance they are appreciated as well. So any task could involve a give and take process and in this case the task was the security check of the cabin (give) while appreciation was the ‘take’.

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It is a rewarding process because when you are appreciated back, nothing beats it. Sometimes though that is not always the case, sometimes you might feel misevaluated or underestimated. In my opinion, underestimation is a virus for a person because it makes one ill. It is a negative sort of a feeling; it completely disrupts the biological setup of one’s body. A person feels as if they lack the required energy, they cannot think up to the standard of others, they feel as if something’s missing.

When opportunity knocks at someone’s door it is for sure that they were doing something right, that they were on the right path and opportunity knocks winners. But if someone’s completely overwhelmed due to being misevaluated they would not notice it. It is famous that opportunity only knocks once and one is supposed to open the door when it does.

So whose fault is it? Can we go ahead and blame the person who is rotting with their own pessimism or should we blame the authority figures who clearly should have appreciated that person in the first place. Who is to be held accountable?

When you struggle to achieve something you work your fingers to the bone for it and of course a person works hard when they are assigned something by someone who is the authority but if that authority figure cannot even appreciate let alone give something back to that person, in that case, all the hard work and efforts that the person was making go down the drain.

A task is successful when it is shared by both; the one who assigns it and the one who does it. It will be incomplete if one of them cannot fulfill their responsibility.

I guess success has many forms and not just one; a person can be successful in many ways and not just career wise, even relationships have a give and take process and can be successful when the people involved agree to stay calm and positive. For example if a mother tells her son to go out and buy groceries she expects him to do that but if he is too lazy and procrastinates then he will only upset his mother because there was no give and take, he only took favors from her but never returned them. If a wife tells her husband to simply pay attention to her because she completely has changed her focus on life and future just to keep her husband happy but if he teases her purposefully then that relationship will be a total failure too. If a boss assigns a task to his junior office member but this guy is lazy then he will never get the raise his boss had in mind for him.

This two-way process 1) Give and 2) Take can bring success no matter what the relationship is whether professional, domestic or school-oriented. If it is only give and give a relationship will fail similarly if it is only take and take, no success will come either.

Someone’s success comes when there is a mutual share of work load or emotions if we talk about relationships but, of course, the examples can be abundant in this case since ‘success’ can have not one but a few more ‘meanings’ to it and that in my opinion.

Hence when a responsibility is taken by a person who is a junior, an assistant and he takes this responsibility because he has agreed to, anyhow, this person works his half while the other half would be the appreciation or regard which should come from the manager or the supervisor. In this manner the give and take process is somewhat victorious because both of them have the understanding that no matter which person is responsible for a task, that responsibility will always be divided into two parts: give and take. Similarly the benefit that the manager will have by the completion of that task will also benefit the assistant which concludes to this: if responsibility is shared, so is the success thus no losers left, it will be a win-win situation.